Some time ago, I took the Have You Found Mr. Right? test from tickle just for fun, or was it to escape from boredom? I can’t really remember but my result was:
You’re Ready for a Family and these were the other details the report said in verbatim:
You’ve played the field and maybe sown some wild oats in your day. In the process, you’ve figured out who you are and what you want. And now you’re going after it with a great guy who wants a family as much as you do. It sounds like you’re both ready to settle down and start your own family traditions.
You’ve probably always made family a priority. Caring and dedicated, you’d do anything for those you love. So it’s no surprise that you’re ready to add more people to your family…no matter how you’ll get along with his mother.
HAHAHA. Oh, I see! But never mind, maybe I was feeling very much inlove at that time. Yet to think of having a family of my own now scares me a lot. I’m starting to think of how to make ends meet in this hard up times when almost every basic commodity increases prices each day and jobs are in recession. And it’s not all about financial stability, I think we have to be mature emotionally and spiritually before we proceed with the next great leap. (toinkz!)
I know wanting to be flawlessly beautiful can be toxic sometimes, but who doesn’t want to be perfect?
Almost all forms of media are saturated by advertisements on products that promise us to have that unrealistically good looking body, blemish-free skin, beautifully flowing straight hair, and healthy/ fit bodies if we buy their products. Modeling seems to be a very good business too as TV, billboards, magazines, newspapers and even the Internet are always flooded with commercial advertisements. These ads make us realize how much we need to cope to measure up with their unrealistic standards.
Maybe it’s because of the culture: most of the people are very unforgiving and very critical about people especially social status and appearance. It shouldn’t be the case but that’s how it has always been and that’s another story. Most jobs today require one to have pleasing personality (note: pleasing personality equates to good looks). If one isn’t very presentable physically, chances are people would look down on him/her. That’s why cosmetics is an all-time good business like food. The targets once pawned are hooked and they are mostly women (why? that’s yet another story).
Liposuction, breast augmentation, facial treatments and other cosmetic procedures is a very lucrative business to mention. I don’t know if my mind will change in the future but as of now, I think it’s grossly vain to undergo so* Though, I must admit I am very tempted to imagine how it will be like if I have like this, or that, or if ever I had this altered, or that removed. Now, better than before I’ve learned to be content with just the way I am, however blemished, flawed or imperfect I may be. If I have some zits, others have cysts. If I have misaligned teeth others have cleft palate. If I have allergies and blotches, others have tumors. See, these physical blemishes look awful but they often heal and they are neither dangerous nor fatal.
But, I also acknowledge that I too am concerned with my appearance. Not very much, but I am a little bit vain too! In fact, I have been a loyal customer to some beauty products in which I discovered recently could have potential health hazards because of some of their active ingredients. Actually most of them are categorically over-the-counter hygienic items like bath soap, shampoo, toothpaste, mouth wash, conditioner. And some not very needed items like facial wash, moisturizers, body scrub, make-up, lipstick, etc.
I was surprised that some of the trusted products that I use are labeled alarmingly high hazard (7-10) and some moderate (3-6) by the researchers at the environmental working group when I searched the skin deep cosmetic database. Some of the products that I used before that when I searched gave positive results meaning high and moderate hazard score were:
Other famous products that I havent used before but marked high in similar study were:
Well, it seems like the list is exhaustive so you can check the database yourself and see the products you use. I don’t know if the companies can sue me for writing their names here but I am only referring to the scientific reports I read from this site.This blog entry is just to support the campaign for safer consumer product use. I think I’ll still use the products myself, but at least with caution. Especially lipstick with large enough amounts of lead.
If you think the name of a specific product should be deleted from the list, then feel free to contact me using my email address.
*No offense meant to people who had it, with all due respect.
1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
9 What does the worker gain from his toil?
10 I have seen the burden God has laid on men.
11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end.
12 I know that there is nothing better for men than to be happy and do good while they live.
13 That everyone may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all his toil—this is the gift of God.
14 I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it. God does it so that men will revere him.
15 Whatever is has already been,
and what will be has been before;
and God will call the past to account. [a]
16 And I saw something else under the sun:
In the place of judgment—wickedness was there,
in the place of justice—wickedness was there.
17 I thought in my heart,
"God will bring to judgment
both the righteous and the wicked,
for there will be a time for every activity,
a time for every deed."
I took the test from Lakbayan to see how much of the Philippines I had visited and my grade is a poor C. I’d like this map to be colored soon! I want to start with Batanes, Palawan second and then Bohol, Mindoro, Bagiuo, Ilocos… hehe (ang dami pa!)
WHEW! How I wish! Makapag-ipon na nga…
I was agitated. It has always been like that and I hated it. I grew very upset and I finally decided it should end as has always been the case. I always thought that breaking up is the only solution.
Dating relationships are messy. You know it’s not gonna always be like cloud nine but foolishly expect that it will often. You know there will be so many rough roads along the way but you get surprised when you encounter even the littlest humps. For while you’re at it, you savor every moment and cherish how it feels to be loved even though you know it will hurt you a lot; special mention to the tears you will shed and the sleepless nights of wondering how come things happen that bad when all you wanted was to be happy.
Relationships have different attractions to different people too! People have different reasons why they choose or choose not to enter a dating relationship. Talk about individualities, it’s same as saying no two persons have the same fingerprint. Each one is quite unique.
So maybe that’s the fact that we need to admit in all our relationships (even to family members, co-workers, friends, neighbors, etc.) Every person is distinctly his/her own that’s why there are big chances of having clashes in terms of preference, opinion, orientation, behaviour, attitude and the list goes on. People are living agents; we think, act and behave autonomously. We may be influenced by people and other factors, but we choose albeit consciously or unconsciously how we behave, think and do things.
I think the essential keyword here is communication, negotiation and compromise. I’m not a guru and I’m not very wise to be one. When we decide to love somebody, we can’t expect everything will be perfect. HAHAHA. Now, I’m quite serious in what I’m saying. Feelings do fluctuate, hormones are deceptive, the other person gets annoying, mood often swings and tantrums are even inevitable. There may be hidden agendas and uncountable unfulfilled promises. We get disappointed, frustrated, wait, worry, scream, and cry our heart out (different ways of expression for different people).
The other person we thought will be our partner to all our joys, thrills, excitement, gloom, grief, and in overcoming our every obstacle will not be always there when we need them the most, even if they care for us deeply. As much we wanted to share almost everything, both of the persons in a dating relationship remains an individual.
There are problems a person must solve by himself. There’s a time to be alone and time to come together.
Whew! What exactly am I saying? I dunno. Relationships also make us weird sometimes. Without our knowing it, we assimilate the other person’s personality. In my case, he’s very patient and persistent. That’s why every time I get angry at him over something, I think again. He has always been uncomplaining to me, even when I get late for appointments, I didn’t finish what he asked me to do and I have an annoying attitude of bringing out the issue of break up every time I’m angry. He was calm and composed, persistent and firm. I don’t always get what I wanted. I will never be a spoiled girlfriend. For the nth time, it was I again who apologized for being angry at small things. Now, how do you think of that? I was the one who was frustrated, angry, disappointed with the workings of the relationship but I ended up taking the blame. You see, I had the wrong perspective. I always want to get out when I should help make it work out. Commitment – now that’s difficult to explain.
Now I shouldn’t bring out breaking up issue often, because the more I talk about it, the more his pushing for tying the knot.
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